Ok. So you obviously know that Javi and I are both vegetarians. No surprise there. (well maybe if you knew us in the 9th grade it is, back when we would sit side by side at lunch and share mini corn dogs...But a lot has changed since then!)
Anyways, so we are both vegetarians. As a couple, that makes breakfast, lunch, and dinner each day so easy. No ''today veggie tomorrow meat'' compromises or anything like that.
So of course, our future wedding will be a reflection of that. Now I'm not saying we are going to be serving only side dishes, im just saying that our wedding celebration will not be a reason that animals will have to be killed. (the same way a religious couple won't give up a church wedding with prayers galore to accommodate a few atheist guests)
When my dad brought it up, he reacted totally disgusted that we would choose that route. '' You won't even serve chicken? Come on! You have to have some sort of meat! '' The thing is, we really don't. And we won't. (I sure wish it was popular for people to insist a vegetarian meal exists at every restaurant and event! Fact of the matter is, it's not! We all have to deal with these things though. It's called life. )
Our wedding will be small enough that i'm positive everyone invited will show up, despite our no meat choice. I've been doing my research on the topic and am taken back by the number of negative responses, selfish guests, and self centered humans.
Now, I get that a wedding isn't all about the bride and groom. True, It's a celebration of two becoming one, the new life that's starting for the couple, and without which, the reception wouldn't even be happening. So obviously, it's somewhat about the newlyweds.
But at the same time, the couple is celebrating WITH their guests. Not in front of, but with. Guest comfort if a huge deal. So yes, the couple should make decisions with them in mind as well.
With that being said, I'm not going to give up my moral beliefs for my guests comfort. Why should I have to look out at my wedding dinner and feel guilty at the sight of dead animals being chewed up. I shouldn't.
And to those people who suggest '' at least serving chicken or fish''... Go back to elementary school. Both of these are living beings that have to die in order to be eaten. Even if you see them as less worthy than cows or pigs, i see them as equal. So no dad. I love you, but there won't be chicken or fish at my wedding.
Guests seem to think that they are entitled to things when they come to a wedding. That's its their right to have an '' expensive meat meal'' or an open bar. I realize that guests go through a TON to attend a wedding (time off from work or giving up a weekend, traveling, babysitting fees, wedding gifts, etc). But I've read plenty of unnecessary comments online about how the whole wedding was ruined for them because of these options. My only response to that is '' I feel sorry for the couple who had to pay for them to be at the wedding''.
I'm hoping that each of my wedding guests realizes a wedding isn't about food or beer. It's about a reflection of the new life that's starting. It's about celebrating love. I intend on doing tons of stuff to make my guests comfortable and ensure they have a great time, but I won't start my new life giving into others wants.
Allergies? No problem, I'll work around that happily. Requests for meat? Not going to happen.
Until next time,
Tiffany < 3
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